A Happy Marriage
Before you were married (those of you who are married), did you ever think two people could be so different? What’s not to love about shopping? Did you know there was such a thing as ‘man‘ food? Or find it downright fascinating that someone won’t turn on the car and start backing out when we are talking. Those, of course, are a female’s point of view. Obviously the males could come up with some good lines too. Marriage has many facets. One way to help keep things blissful, is laughter. This video is hilarious. I need my married kids to watch this! Even if you have seen this before, it is worth watching again. Maybe it will clue us in a little bit on those differences between the sexes.
How do you use your time? What direction are you going?
Consider the statement, “Be effective as opposed to efficient.”
Neil A. Maxwell said, “The scriptural advice, “Do not run faster or labor more than you have strength” (D&C 10:4) suggests paced progress, much as God used seven creative periods in preparing man and this earth. There is a difference, therefore, between being “anxiously engaged” and being over-anxious and thus underengaged.
Some of us who would not chastise a neighbor for his frailties have a field day with our own. Some of us stand before no more harsh a judge than ourselves, a judge who stubbornly refuses to admit much happy evidence and who cares nothing for due process. Fortunately, the Lord loves us more than we love ourselves.. A constructive critic truly cares for that which he criticizes, including himself, whereas self-pity is the most condescending form of pity; it soon cannibalizes all other concerns.
Brothers and sisters, the scriptures are like a developmental display window through which we can see gradual growth—along with this vital lesson: it is direction first, then velocity! Enoch’s unique people were improved “in process of time.” (Moses 7:21.) Jesus “received not of the fullness at first, but received grace for grace” (D&C 93:12) and even He grew and “increased in wisdom and stature” (Luke 2:52).
Viking Dinner -
It is great fun to throw the kids for a loop once in a while. Try something really out of the ordinary. The kids love the unexpected. When the normal is, mom cajoling for chores to be done and dad coming home tired from work, it is easy to come up with a shocker. I covered the table with a plastic tablecloth. When it was time for dinner, we called the children. The kicker was my hubby decked out in medieval clothing. I dressed the part too, but my husband outdid himself.
When the children were seated, we slopped a glob of spaghetti on the table in front of them. They had to eat with their hands. For drink they cupped their hands as we poured water into them to slurp. Honestly, we had more fun than the kids. Well, maybe not…those teenagers ate it up .
As fun as Halloween is for many children, not all of them enjoy the festivities. Have a look at my grandson:
Halloween festivities aren’t always the joy of a child’s life
Drink Water! “Water (check out the link) is your body’s principal chemical component and makes up about 60 percent of your body weight. Every system in your body depends on water. For example, water flushes toxins out of vital organs, carries nutrients to your cells and provides a moist environment for ear, nose and throat tissues.” …Mayo Clinic
One of the benefits of drinking water is you are replacing high-calorie drinks such as juice or soda. Often when we think we are hungry, we are actually thirsty. With water having no calories, it makes a perfect choice and can help suppress appetite when drinking it before eating.
If you are thirsty, you are already dehydrated. Dehydration can leave you feeling tired. Water helps rev up energy.
Another symptom of dehydration is headaches. Obviously, there are many reasons for headaches, but dehydration is a common cause.
Skin (check out the link)
Drinking water can clear up your skin and people often report a healthy glow after drinking water. If there is a buildup of toxins that have not been properly eliminated via kidneys they get flushed through the skin and acne results.
Water, along with fiber can help with constipation, which is often a result of dehydration. Our digestive system needs plenty of water to digest food properly. Also, water can help cure stomach acid problems.
Water is used by the body to help flush out toxins and waste products from the body.
NONCASH Charitable Donations –tax info–
We live in a “throw away” society. I personally feel satisfaction when I can donate something of value that can be used by someone else. I usually take between a $1000 to $2500 deduction per year for non-cash donations.
When I was in high school, my friend’s grandpa was the manager of the Ogden Deseret Industries. My friends and I were able to get part-time jobs driving trucks and picking up appliances. That job gave me a first-hand witness of the blessing of this organization in providing work to handicapped people.
Remember, the donations need to be to qualified charities and no deduction is allowed for a charitable contribution of clothing or household items unless the clothing or household item is in good used condition or better. The IRS is authorized by regulation to deny a deduction for any contribution of clothing or a household item that has minimal monetary value, such as used socks and undergarments.
Planning Tip: Most cell phones today can take pictures. Take a picture of all items donated.
Keep the electronic pictures for proof the items were in good or better condition at
the time they were donated.
Recordkeeping Rules for Charitable Contributions
To help substantiate a deduction for the fair market value of used items donated to charity,
make a list of each item donated on a separate sheet of paper along with the following
• Name and address of charity.
• Date items were donated to the charity.
• Description of each item donated.
• Fair market value of each item at the time they were donated (email me and I can send you a guide).
• Date each donated item was originally purchased or acquired.
• Cost or other basis of each item donated.
PS Email me if you would like to get a Guide of the Fair Market Value of Donated Items
It was just yesterday that I was a young mom, struggling with the diapers, nighttime wake-up calls, spit up on my blouse, cranky kids, and potty training. No really, it was just yesterday. I know it was literally years ago for most of my kids (I do still have fairly young ones), but my mind tells me it was yesterday. This allotment of time we have been given, isn’t always cherished. I mean, come on, cherish messy diapers? Believe it or not, I’ll take the dirty diapers, to have those babies. There is nothing in the world like holding a new-born baby…
So, hang on through the rough stuff and love and cherish the time you have with your little ones. Big ones too. They go before you know it. I happen to be in about every stage of life there is. Mom, grandma, little kids, big kids, middle kids, son-in-laws, grand kids, daughter-in-laws. I guess what I am trying to say is, stop and think about what you are spending your time on. Is it really worth it? You can’t re-live those minutes or hours. My 9-year-old will NEVER EVER be 9 again.
Pass it forward
We have one life. There is no way around that fact. That said, how are you going to spend this limited gift? Have you stopped to think about how wrapped up we get in our little sphere of life? I want you to try something. Just try it. You will be amazed at how you feel afterwards. Do something unexpectedly nice for someone. This could be anyone. The other day I noticed a woman in a dressing room in a discount store juggling clothing to try on with little ones in tow. She noticed another woman bringing in a top and mentioned to her that she loved the top and asked where it was located in the store. The woman that had the shirt, promptly went out and found 3 sizes of the mentioned shirt for the mother to try on, handing them to her over the door. The woman with the children was astonished and thanked her profusely. It really warmed my heart to see the exchange between the two women. You’ve heard of the infamous ‘pass it forward’. Has it happened to you? Try something! Step outside your comfort zone and show kindness to another.
Kale. What a super food! It is so rich in vitamins-A, in particular. I grow this right outside my backdoor so I can quickly pop outside and grab a few leaves to add to salad. An herb garden close to your home is wonderful for convenience in adding fresh herbs to your diet. Grow it right outside your back door if you can. The more convenient they are, the more you will end up using the fresh herbs. My favorites are parsley, rosemary, oregano, basil, chives, and mint. I have a fabulous strawberry mint recipe I got from my sister-in-law, who is an amazing cook, and who also happens to have my same first and last name! That recipe will be in a following post. REMEMBER, CONVENIENCE IS KEY!
Tuscan Kale Chips
(Adapted from Bon Appétit)
A bunch of Tuscan kale leaves (also referred to as lacinato kale), rinsed, dried and thick part of stems cut off
Preheat oven to 250°F. Toss kale with oil in large bowl. Sprinkle with salt. Arrange leaves in single layer on 2 large baking sheets. Bake until crisp, about 30 minutes for flat leaves and up to 33 minutes for wrinkled leaves. Transfer leaves to rack to cool slightly then dig in!
A reminder about POSTURE…
Our posture affects us more than we might think. There are many causes for ‘bad’ posture including: tight muscles, overweight, and sleeping positions. Here (Mayo Clinic) are some great tips for working on improving your posture. Use a pillow between your knees if you are a side sleeper. Regularly stretch your neck, back, shoulder and pectoral muscles. Stand straight and elongate your spine, lifting your head up. Of course, you don’t want to make it so you are uncomfortable, but it improves your posture immensely. Plus, you feel more confident. It also looks more attractive.