Experts say that if you took 100 % of the communication we receive:
7 % of communication is ‘received’ by words
38 % of communication is ‘received’ by sounds
55 % communication is ‘received’ by body language
That is huge!! How are people reading you? It makes me want to stop and consider what body language I am using as I interact with my children and for that matter my husband. Could I be giving signals I didn’t intend? To be an engaged parent it takes A LOT of listening.
Do you ever catch yourself doing the blank stare after a 15 minute monologue from one of the children about something they love which you may not (like Pokémon or superheroes)? I think I will try to do a little more POSITIVE body language these days. Notice those around you. We are all quite masterful at our body language communication.
As much as we may not want to believe it,happiness is a choice. Life gets really hard at times. Things happen where we feel beat up emotionally. These are the times we need to pause, take a deep breath, then reflect on our life. Are there things we could change that are adding to our distress? Do we need to change things that are causing us unhappiness? Sometimes there are big things. Sometimes it’s just the little things that get to me. Silly little things. But it doesn’t make the way you are feeling any less real. Can I just say that even the mundane household chores day after day are enough to send me into fits. Honestly, how many times do I have to wash the same dishes or pick up the same shoes? There IS happiness for us. It is what God wants.
I love this quote, which brings hope to me when things look bleak:
“Happiness is the object and design of our existence; and will be the end thereof, if we pursue the path that leads to it…” –Joseph Smith Jr.